3 things they should teach in sex education

By now it's pretty obvious that the sex education that gets taught in schools isn't good enough. The school  

curriculum is very limited in what they are willing to share with teenagers about sex and relationships 

despite it being a huge part of their lives. I've been very open in regards of everything sex related from; 

education, relationships, toys and being sex positive. We are constantly evolving and growing over time 

and the education surrounding sex has remained the same. This needs to change.

DIFFICULTIES GETTING PREGNANT

I was always under the impression that it would take around 6 to 12 months to get pregnant, depending on 

your ovulation, and it would be really easy. However that's not the case, and it can take an average of 2 

years to fall pregnant. We often here about unplanned pregnancies; from teens and one night stands, but 

we don't here about how difficult it can be to get pregnant. There needs to be more education about this as 

so many adults go into trying for a baby naively because of this. I was also so unaware of the many other 

ways to have a baby such as; donors, IVF and adoption.

SEX FOR PLEASURE AND MASTURBATION

When I was taught sex education I remember only learning that sex was for making babies. There was 

never a conversation regarding having sex for pleasure. I knew that not every time you had sex resulted in 

a pregnancy, but I didn't realise how sex could make you feel and how important it can be. As I got older 

there were more conversations about masturbation, but only ever with males. It was embarrassing to admit 

that you masturbated as a women as it was shown as disgusting and unfeminine, but why? If I could go 

back to my younger self, I would love to tell her that it's not something to be embarrassed about, the 

majority of people do it and its nothing out of the ordinary. 

YOU CAN SAY NO AT ANY TIME

The most important piece of information that should be taught in sex education is that you can say no at 

any time. You don't just have to say no before sex, you can say no at any point. If you say no half way 

through sex that is ok, and if they carry on it is rape. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. I cannot 

express how important this is to teach both boys and girls at any age.

xoxo

Lea-Mai