Body confidence in the bedroom


A recent passion of mine has become talking about more taboo topics. I started a few years ago when 
I introduced mental health chats into my blog, and after they were so well received I wanted to do 
more. In December I starting talking about sex, body confidence and periods. On my Instagram I 
asked for what blog posts you would be interested in seeing, regarding these topics, and body 
confidence in the bedroom came out on top. I wanted to talk about this topic first as I know the 
majority of us will have struggled or experienced with this at some point or are worried about this for 
the future. Obviously I can't speak for everyone, but these are some tips and advice that I've found 
have helped me grow in confidence and the love for my body in the bedroom.

The first tip that I would give is the physical side of things. Confidence comes from within, but it's 
also nice to feel good beautiful on the outside. Pamper your body. This is something that makes me 
feel so good about myself. I will wash my hair, paint my nails, shave, moisturise. Go all out. If 
applying fake tan and doing your lashes makes you feel more confident then try that. It makes such a 
difference when you feel good on the outside.  

There is something about putting on some lingerie, cute pyjamas or a role-play outfit that gives you 
so much confidence. Playsuits make me feel real confident, which is why I love this black lace set 
from Pour Moi. I also love slipping on a little red lingerie body that shows off my curves. When it 
comes to role-play outfits, I find they can either make you love or hate your body. So I definitely 
recommend trying them on beforehand so you can get a feel of what you're going to look like in the 
moment. When I try things on beforehand and love how I look it gets me excited to wear it later on 
and gives me self-boost throughout the day.


Whether you are in a long term relationship or you are having a one night stand, it's so important to 
remind yourself that, that persons wants to be there and having sex with you right now. No matter if 
it is the fist time or the hundredth time you are having sex with someone, if they don't love and 
appreciate your body then you shouldn't be having sex with them. It's a personal choice but why
would you want to be having sex and being intimate with someone who isn't attracted too you and is 
going to make you feel awful about yourself. So remind yourself that they are there for a reason and 
are attracted to you and your body just like you are to them.

Setting the scene can often help get in the mood and feeling confident. A lot of people prefer to have 
sex with the lights off, some like to make things romantic with candles and rose petals. Make sure to 
communicate. Whether it's about things you like, dislike, want to try, anything. Communication is the 
key. Stick to what you know but also don't be afraid to experiment and try new things (maybe just 
not all at once). Most importantly be yourself. Do what makes you feel comfortable and confident. 
Wear what makes you feel confident. Make sure what you're doing is for you, not anyone else.

xoxo
Lea-Mai

18 comments

  1. I loved reading this and you look amaaaaazing girl x

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  2. Well done for writing about this kind of thing, it was an interesting read and it is nice to see how your confidence has grown in exploring different topics.

    Amy x
    The July Rose

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    1. It's amazing what you go through and how the smallest changes can make the biggest differences in your life x

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  3. It’s so hard to be confident I love this

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  4. Loved this post Lea. You look incredible and love that your talking about this xx

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  5. Great post hun, so good of you to talk about these things and you look incredible xx

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    1. Love talking about topics like this! Thank you x

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  6. I absolutely LOVE this post & you look INCREDIBLE! Rachael xx

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  7. I'm loving these posts & you look amazing! Since putting on weight, my body confidence has dropped like crazy. It's mad isn't it, a tan and makeup makes me feel soooo much better though! x

    Megan Elizabeth

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    1. Thank you! The smallest things can make you feel so much more confident. Always remember that you are beautiful x

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  8. I am loving this new category on your blog! It is so refreshing to read and I really look forward to these posts!
    I am not body confident at all and it really gets me down. I am going to take a leaf out of your book!
    Rosie
    loverosiee.co.uk

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    1. Thank you! So many more to come. It takes time, I still have bad days where I don't feel confident at all x

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  9. Well done for writing this wonderful post

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