Moving out - 1 year later

It's been just over a year since I moved out, and a lot has happened in that short space time. There has 

been a lot of changes, good and bad memories as well as lessons learnt. I have done a few blog posts on 

moving out and living alone, but I wanted to do a specific post on everything over the past year. 

I originally moved out at the beginning of December 2020, with my ex boyfriend after only 6 weeks of 

dating. We have since both said how quick it was, however it felt right at the time and is something that 

neither of us regret. This was the first time I'd never moved house and lived without my parents and I 

couldn't contain the excitement. For so long I had dreamed of having a place of my own, decorating the 

way I wanted and being more independent. 

After 6 months of living together me and my ex split up and I found myself living alone. This was 

something that I never wanted to do and never anticipated wold happen. Surprisingly I adjusted quickly 

and have been living alone since. The emotional side of moving out and living alone has been a tough 

journey. I have loved the independence, being able to decorate and have things how I want and walking 

into my home knowing everything is mine and bought with my hard earned money. There have been some 

struggles and days when I wish I lived with someone, but overall I've loved it. 

There is a lot of responsibility with living alone, which I knew before but it can be quite stressful. 

Before living alone I knew that I didn't have bills to pay and all the money I earned was for whatever 

I wanted. Where as now, if I don't pay my bills there are serious consequences, I loose my freedom and 

everything I've worked for. That is one of the downsides with living alone as the responsibility is all on

 me rather than split evenly between 2 people. The money side of things has been a stress at times, as I 

moved out with someone and my job at the time only just covered my half of the bills. I quickly got a 

new job but a few months later I got made redundant and found myself in a rush to get a job that would 

work for me mentally but also financially. 

I am such a perfectionist and getting my home perfect for me, didn't happen as quickly as I thought. I'm 

very thankful that the main furniture pieces and most expensive items, were what I bought first and made 

sure to have straight away. However it's the small touches around the house that make it into a home. 1 

year later and there are only a handful of items that I know I want, which I'm hoping to get soon. 

Overall I have loved every minute of the last year. All the ups and downs, laughter and sadness has 

been worth it and I wouldn't change it for the world. Living alone is something I will forever cherish 

and never take for granted and I'm beyond thankful for every memory made and to come. 

xoxo

Lea-Mai