Why sex aftercare is so important

It's fairly obvious that I enjoy talking about sex. I love taking about the taboo topics that no-one else does, 

trying to break the stigma and start a conversation. My sex and wellness content has been so well received 

over the last 11 months and I'm so glad as it's become my favourite thing to write about. This is a post I've 

wanted to do for a long time, but struggled to find inspiration to write. After getting my mojo back a bit, 

it's time we spoke about why sex aftercare is so important.

HYGIENE

After sex, hygiene is incredibly important; especially for women. Women have are more prone to water 

infections led from sex if they haven't been to the toilet afterwards to 'flush it out'. Bacteria can get into 

your urethra (a women's is longer which is why they are more prone to water infections than men) which 

can cause an infection. When you pee after sex it flushes the germs away. PEE AFTER SEX.

You have the basics such as washing your hands, and possibly even having a shower. You don't want 

germs being sat on your skin for a long period of time that wouldn't be there otherwise. Always wash your 

hands, especially after foreplay. When it comes to washing your genitals, make sure you are using an 

unscented soap or a soap that is specifically designed for that area. A vagina is self cleaning and using 

fragranced soaps can affect the PH balance. Men should make sure to clean around the tip as this area if 

often missed and is a reason why infections such as thrush is caused. Make sure you change into clean 

underwear to avoid any further infections and odors. 

Something that people often forget is to clean your sex toys. Sex toys are used in the exact same way, and 

need to be cleaned the same way too. You can get specific sex toy cleaners, however I recommend using 

feminine wipes (they're the same but a lot cheaper) as they're safe to use on your genitals or just rinse off 

with water. If you chose not to clean your sex toys you are at risk of old bacteria and germs entering and 

causing infections and possible STI's. In regards to STI's make sure you are getting regular checkups, 

recommended at least every 12 months even if you are in stable relationship.

For further hygiene related aftercare click here.

COMMUNICATION

Until recently I never would've consider communication and company as a form of aftercare. But our 

mental health and wellbeing is just an important as the hygiene and medical side of things. Whether you 

are in a relationship, having casual hooks or one night stands communication is important. I don't mean 

you have to sit there and have a conversation about the events that have just transpired, but making sure 

you are both comfortable and feeling safe is key. 

When having sex you are at your most vulnerable and intimate. Showing you care afterwards, rather than 

walking out the room shows that you care. Whether you want to have sex again in the future, and take it 

further (e.g. a relationship) or if it was just a one time thing, it still matters. Nobody wants to feel used.

The BDSM community is big on the emotional aftercare of sex as you are taking things to new and 

possibly extreme levels of intimacy. Allowing yourself to become so vulnerable in front of another person, 

by pushing the boundaries. Following BDSM you can often feel nauseas, dizzy, tired and possibly in pain. 

If you are physically in pain then that should be dealt with first, and medical attention should be seeked if 

necessary. Since a lot of BDSM is about having a Dom and Sub, the emotional aftercare is often 

demonstrated through cuddles, kisses, baths, massages etc. as the Dom still has a change to be in

 charge, whilst the Sub is being looked after and taken care off. 

Whether you are making sure pee after sex or talk with your partner afterwards aftercare is so important. 

Take care of your body and mental health by avoiding infections and emotional trauma. 

xoxo

Lea-Mai