Consent - lets talk

When you hear the word consent your mind immediately goes to sex. Consent doesn't have to be used in 
that form. Yes it's the main starting point for sex, however consent is used in daily life. People are often 
worried about the possible consequences of saying no to having sex, and I think a big reason for that is 
due to a lack of knowledge around the subject. When I was in school and we did sex education, we got the 
bare minimum and something that was never spoken about was consent, and since over a third of students 
feel pressured into taking part in a sexual activity, you would think there would be more education 
surrounding the topic. The #metoo movement has highlighted the issues, but there is still room to grow.

Consent is having an mutual understanding and agreement between all parties to engage in sexual 
activities. When having sex and being intimate with someone is opening yourself up to be at your most 
vulnerable. Communication and honesty is always key, so making sure that you are comfortable before 
hand is extremely important, whether this is your first time or your hundredth. It may feel awkward having 
that conversation no matter how short or long it takes to do so, but it's the most important thing to do.

Consent is given comfortably and is not to be forced, done out of peer pressure, done under the influence 
of drugs or alcohol and is not done out of fear. Consent can be withdrawn at any point. If you are half way 
through sexual activity and you feel like you no longer want to continue, you can say so. Consent is only 
doing the things that you have agreed to and are comfortable with doing. Consent is giving it to every 
person, every time you engage in sexual activity. No matter what you are in charge or your body, and you 
are in control of what you decide to do or not to do. If you are engaging in a sexual act and are unsure of 
whether the other person is wanting to carry on, instead of waiting for them to say something, ask them. 
Ask them; "are you ok?" "do you want me to carry on?" "shall we stop and take a break?" 

In sex education we got taught about condoms, male and female cis sex and basic genital anatomy. The 
curriculum controls the majority of what we learn from age 4-16 yet chose to give us as little information 
as possible about a huge, natural subject such as sex. I got taught sex education when I was about 10/11 
and then again in high school. High school is a huge part of a persons life where they do a lot of 
experimenting with their lives. Yet we are not taught how to say 'no' or 'stop', that sex or a sexual activity  
is something you do with someone else not too them, and that if someone is under the influence they 
cannot give consent, no matter how under the influence they may be. published an article about consent myths and facts which is a really important to read. I was 
shocked to find out that 1 in 10 women (average age 18) and 1 in 71 men (average age 16) have had non-
consensual sex at some point in their life. This is a huge reason as to why I'm so passionate about the 
education around sex. I am passionate about consent because it's the line between a sexual encounter and 
sexual assault. I was sexually abused when I was 3, there was no way for me to understand consent never 
mind give it. I have family members and friends who have been rapped or sexually abused, despite saying 
no. The more education we give the more that people will understand the signs of consent and how to give 
it comfortably, rather than out of fear or peer pressure. 



  1. Well done to you for sharing this post! Consent and the noise around it should be spoken about in schools, taught to kids and teenagers and more readily available. I am absolutely loving this type of content from you!

    1. Thank you lovely! This conversation needs to be happening more frequently x

  2. Love this! Such a good post and definitely a conversation that's needed.

    1. Thank you lovely! Definitely not talked about enough x