Dating in a world of technology

When you get into a relationship you think that's going to be it. You don't think you'll date again, and 

you'll be with that person for the rest of your life. A lot of the time that is not the case. Whether thats 

a good or bad thing in your life, I'm a huge believer in everything happens for a reason (even if you 

don't know why at the time). I've been single for a few months now, and there's a lot I've learnt about 

dating and also how dating in a world where social media is constantly progressing looks.

DATING SITES

When I first got in a relationship I was 17 so I was never on any dating sites until recently. And wow 

that's an experience. I've tried out quite a few and also deleted most of them. Tinder is definitely for 

those who are just wanting hook ups, yes you can find relationships but I feel like that's less than 5% 

of people who are on there. Bumble and hinge are the same but I find that people are more up front 

with what they are looking for and are after there, rather than just wanting sex. Out of all of these I 

actually found POF (plenty of fish) to be the worst. It gave me such weird vibes being on there and 

the amount of weird pick up lines and conversation starters I got was insane! There's definitely a 

stigma about being on dating sites, especially multiple at once. Mainly that you're either looking for 

one night stands and hook ups or are so desperate for a relationship. I don't think you have to be 

either. Dating is fun, and as long as you're happy I don't think anyone should have a problem with it.

THE 'TALKING' STAGE

This is by far the best and worst stage, I think. When you match with someone and you start to talk 

you get the butterflies and excitement of getting to know someone and it all being new, but then also 

comes the times when you struggle to make conversation and before you know it, everything has just 

fizzled out. Because of how these dating apps work, a lot of the time a conversation will lead to sex. 

Yes sex is great, and I love talking about it, but please do not mention it within the first few days of 

talking to you and then send me a surprise picture on my phone and expect me to react to it! Since 

being single though I've found that a lot of people use other forms of social media, such as Facebook 

and Instagram, to get to know someone and meet them rather than matching on a dating site.

GOING ON DATES

If you are lucky enough to hit it off with someone, and aren't currently in a worldwide pandemic and 

national lockdown, then you might find yourself going on a date. I guess I would say I've been on 1 

date, mainly because we went out for food. However it was the most awkward experience of my life 

that I made an excuse that I lost my house key, as to why he couldn't come back to mine. At the 

minute we are on lockdown, so going on dates isn't happening at all. However I know the next 

time I do it'll be with someone worth it, which is the most important part.

Overall I find dating in todays society, that is full of technology, really odd. Yes it's convenient and 

easy but I'm a old romantic and love the idea of meeting someone without technology and having the 

typical 'movie' romance. People don't send flowers or open the car door for your anymore, because 

we've just got so lazy and it's easier to get someone else to do it or not do it at all. Dating as whole is 

an interesting topic and time in anybodies life and I guarantee that a lot of people will have some sort 

of cringey/awkward dating story from some point in the lives, we're all just on the journey together.

xoxo

Lea-Mai